Code of conduct is an indispensable item for any event or community nowadays. Derived from the Contributor Covenant, such rules have been replicated as a template, and are rarely created by communities, creating a void between what is written and what is needed. Based on my point of view as co-organizer of PyLadies Berlin, this talk intends to share our experience so that other organizers can have tools at hand to better act when code is hurt.